Your Wife Is A Rental Car

“I often remind my wife Vanessa that she resembles a rental car.

Great way to start a blog post right? Now before you get up in arms about my opening line, just think about it…someday, I have to turn my wife back in to her heavenly Father, GOD. Kind of intimidating right? As a husband, I am held responsible not only for the well being of my wife, but for her as a person, as a Christian, and as a mother. I’m responsible for her spiritual health, her emotional health, her mental and everything in between. And in this way she resembles a rental car.

Still not with me?

It’s like this…Have you ever rented a vehicle from an airport or while you were on vacation? If so, then you know that there is a high price to pay if you don’t return the car in almost BETTER, condition then when you first received it. It needs to be clean, it needs to not have any dents or scratches, the gas needs to be topped off, and the windshield wiper fluid needs to be moderately full. If not, then there is a price to pay. The same goes for our wives, and our children for that matter, because in the end THEY ARE NOT YOURS! You as a husband have to turn your wife back in to Christ someday.

How you doin‘ with that?

It seems that after you are married for a while, you start to feel ownership over your spouse. But it’s important to remember that she is not yours, she is on loan from God. And that means how you treat her is important. Remember when you were a teenager, and you picked up that girl on a first date and you had that awkward, “in the door-way, if you touch my daughter i‘m gonna kill you cause i own a shotgun, and by the way i was a marine”, conversation with the girls dad? Yeah, it’s kind of like that, except your wifes REAL dad is somewhat more powerful. He spoke a few words and created everything you know to be, all of creation bends to His will, He sits on a throne in the heavens, He has power over life and death, He is outside of time. This is the Guy you have to return your wife to after your extended date(marriage). So the real point is, GROW UP! Stop treating your wife like she is only good for cleaning up after your mess and watching your kids, and cooking your food. Stop treating her like she needs to bow to your every command. You are not her King, but she should be treated like your queen. Get over yourself.

Men love to quote Ephesians 5: 22, “Wives submit to your husband.” But the greater calling is on you men! Keep reading! Look at verse 25! Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless!

See your wife doesn’t just submit to you out of duty alone, but rather she responds with submission when she trusts that you, her husband, is submitting to her by loving her like Christ loves the church. Which means you must be willing to lay your life down for her. And don’t go all poetic on me and say, “Well, I WOULD die for my wife!”



Good For You!

The real question is, can you lay your life down for her every day? Are you willing to put aside your needs? Your desires? Your wants? Your time? For her? That’s what it means to lay your life down for her! And when you do this, your wife responds with biblical submission out of a trust and security that she gains by knowing that you care more about her than you do yourself, and that you answer to her Heavenly Father.

So, check the oil, top off the gas, keep it clean, drive carefully, and know that soon you will be turning your rental back in to the REAL owner.


Get Above It

In WWII being an airplane pilot was one of the most dangerous jobs you could have. Constantly engaged in dogfights, constantly in fear you were going to be shot down, and constantly having to check your back to make sure someone wasn’t tailing you. Why? Because you were engaged in a battle, you were engaged in an immediate fight! It wasn’t until about halfway through the war that pilots started making the decision to fly a little higher, and engage their opponents from a higher altitude that they started to have more success. The problem was this took a little more courage from the pilot to fly higher, and it took a little bit of a beating on the plane to fly at that level. But pilots learned how to manage their fear, and eventually they built planes that could withstand a higher flight altitude, and all was well.

                                                       In your life, are you constantly

                                                       in the dogfight, or are you flying

                                               above the fray? 

Think about it. We become engaged in battles and anger that are sure to get us into trouble every time. But the truth of the matter is that most situations don’t warrant a defensive maneuver from you if you are flying above it. Don’t allow situations, circumstances and people to dictate your emotions. You are built to get above it, and when you get above it all, you realize that it is all temporary any way. Every moment spent in anger over something that someone said about you, or to you, is a moment not spent on clearing a path for the gospel. WWII pilots knew that if they dipped down into the lower altitudes of battle they were sure to be shot, so instead they cruised over top to complete missions. This is how we must live.

God has been teaching me so much in dealing with my anger. And one of the things that I am learning is that I don’t always need to defend myself, even when others have an unkind word to say. This is so humbling, because often times, you want to come out and yell, or say something that in the eyes of those around you may even look justifiable. But the only defense that I should need to use is my life, because truly, I should live my life in a way that is so honoring to Christ and others that it defends itself. Our enemy wants to engage you on a personal level, but don’t let him. Ephesians 6 tells us that our real battle is not against flesh and blood but against darkness, and if this is true, then we are wasting too much time being mad at the wrong things. Don’t get angry at your wife, don’t get angry with your kids, don’t get angry with your boss, don’t get angry with your car(well, maybe we can make an exception for that one!) But rather get angry over things that matter.

Get angry over the fact that our enemy has a grip on our city, and then do something about it. You were created to take back the land, and when you get into fights and squabbles over the temporary you lose, and when you lose we all lose. A real leader knows when to fly above it and when those moments are that warrant a dip down into the battle. When you drop down to enter the fray of battle you are engaging fights on a finite level, and we must learn to see things as God sees them. Don’t get caught up in the temporary, learn to live in the eternal, see the big picture, and stop wasting your time fighting battles, and start advancing. Start making significant strides in the real war that is taking place.

So the next time you are tempted to throw back a harsh word, stop, breathe, and share a kind word. The next time you feel your emotions rise up in you, stop, breathe, and fly a little higher. in the end this will completely revolutionize your stress level, and it will get you to a place where you are seeing the real fight for what it is.



A Letter To Covenant

Hey Guys!

If your anything like me, then your week gets filled up pretty quick. A job to do, kids to run around(or after), people to meet up with, life to be lived. And if your also anything like me, it seems as if there are never enough hours in the week to accomplish all of  the things on your “to do”, list. So with that in mind, we decided it would be a great idea to start a blog. Every few days I will be posting spiritual challenges, leadership thoughts, information about Covenant, thoughts about relationships and marriage etc. etc.

I don’t always have time to sit down and have a conversation with everyone, but this way you can at least get to know whats on my mind, and on my heart. I’m always a bit leery of blogs, cause it often times seems to be a showcase of someones ego, and a showcase for all of their, “wisdom”, (insert sarcastic and devious laugh here) But I assure you, i’m not claiming to know everything, not even close. However, as God lays things on my heart, I will write about them, and my prayer is that they will be an encouragement, a challenge, and a resource for you in your daily walk with Christ. So check back often, and  tweet or facebook a link to a blogpost if you feel like it could be of use in someones life, and I will type away!

God Bless,

Pastor Travis

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